The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse
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Dan Allender




2008, 1999


You may think you don't know anyone who has been sexually abused, especially if most of your friends and acquaintances are Christians. But the statistics indicate otherwise. The Wounded Heart is an intensely personal and specific look at this most "soul deadening" form of abuse. Personal because it may be affecting you, your spouse, a close friend or neighbor, or someone you know well at church; and specific because it goes well beyond the general issues and solutions discussed in other books.

Dr. Allender's book reaches deep into the wounded heart of someone you know, exploring the secret lament of the soul damaged by sexual abuse and laying hold of the hope buried there by the One whose unstained image we all bear.


  • Acknowledgments
  • Foreword by Dr. Larry Crabb
  • Prologue: The Quest for a Cure
  • Preface: A Question of Memory
  • Part 1: The Dynamics of Abuse
    • The Reality of a War: Facing the Battle
    • The Enemy: Sin and Shame
    • Deflection: The Clash with Contempt
    • The War Zone: Strategies for Abuse
  • Part 2: The Damage of Abuse
    • Powerlessness
    • Betrayal
    • Ambivalence
    • Secondary Symptoms
    • Style of Relating
  • Part 3: Prerequisites for Growth
    • The Unlikely Route to Joy
    • Honesty
    • Repentance
    • Bold Love
    • Epilogue: Words to the Wise
  • Notes
  • Bibliography
  • About the Author